What Is eJournaling?

eJournaling is a Cloud-based Q&A activity where users answer questions from a proprietary database and share those answers with members of their inner circle (e.g. family, friends, co-workers, etc.) eJournals are organized in sets of four questions with additional space to write about anything that’s on your mind.

Answering a few simple questions about everyday happenings helps encourage dialogue and communication on a slightly deeper level. It is through this casual and guided dialogue that helps people know each other on a whole new level. The better we know someone the more connected we feel to them and them to us.

eJournaling is about building connection with a few others through the basic sharing of personal, but not private, information. Your favorite vacation, tv show or ice cream flavor is personal to you and only your opinion matters. Yet, it’s a relatively benign piece of information that, when shared, does not put you at risk of harm, embarrassment or judgement.

Private information (which eJournaling does not try to find out) such as the first time you tried smoking, your thoughts or opinions of another person or your deepest fears and insecurities require a much greater level of vulnerability and depending on the receiver could result in judgement, conflict or embarrassment. eJournaling is not trying to access your private thoughts.

When we begin to share personal information we welcome others to learn about who we are without risk of divulging anything potentially controversial or being exceptionally vulnerable. It’s the combination and accumulation of sharing little details about who we are that allow us to develop a rapport, a common reference of knowledge and a more complete understanding of the people closest to us. The more we understand and know someone the more connected we feel.

This is the essence of eJournaling – simple, easy questions that encourage us to regularly share a little with our family, friends and/or colleagues to bring us one step closer together. Enjoy!

Kevin

Note: This post is an original from FamilyeJournal.com’s blog.

Are We Getting the “Real” Connection We Need?

The word “connection” can take many different meanings these days. Connected (the film), discusses how we, people, are using technology more and more and we’re completely addicted to it. It’s getting faster every day and as the film says, when will we cease to be able to keep up.

Families need to connect and fit together like a puzzle.

I am in total agreement with Connected – The Film, that people and their interdependence is key. In the past 12 years that I’ve been observing and learning I ultimately draw the same conclusion every time. Of course, I may be rather biased at this point but that is all the more reason to discuss these ideas.

My basic frustration is the lack of connection between people. Or, in other words, the false sense of connection we think we have and especially the hypnotic path we are on (e.g. leaving dinner with a friend to check our digital world, a family or group of friends sharing a meal but everyone is on their phone). More specifically, I believe the lack of “real” and “true” connection within a family is actually the root of most of society’s bigger problems (e.g. suicide, bullying, gun violence, drugs, alcohol, cutting, fighting, bulimia, anorexia, obesity, etc.).

Instant Gratification - I want it now!Recall back to Introduction to Psychology, where Abraham Maslow theorized there is a Hierarchy of Needs common to all humans. I believe his theory is correct and the Need for Connection is not being met with most people. In short, we continue to try and fulfill the Need for Connection (i.e. non-romantic love) with other, more instantly gratifying means but these means have no real value so we are left unfulfilled. So, we go out and get more and more, faster and faster. Nothing is satisfying but we keep getting more. A new iPhone, a nicer car, a bigger house, another helping of pasta, ice cream, checking a Facebook status, updating our own status… it’s not fast enough…. I need more so I get a Twitter account and I follow thousands of people to get more non-personal updates and the cycle continues.

Unfortunately, none of this instant gratification adds value to our lives but they meet our need – for a moment. The truth is we need REAL connection but that takes time and effort and is only developed after great joy and sometimes pain. But, if it’s worth staying true, the Connection Need is completely fulfilled and we ARE satisfied and then we grow. Human connection takes time and requires the ability to seek the delayed gratification but when it is reached it is incredibly valuable to us.

Instant Gratification Race of Zero Miles RunToday, society too often falls short when it comes to seeking delayed gratification. Children are forced into it for their high school diploma but what else? Some of us find it when we graduate from college, train for a marathon or triathlon, we used to have it with lay-away programs at K-Mart and Sears but now we just buy on credit with money we don’t even have. Trying to fulfill our Need for Connection the wrong way has put very far along a very dangerous path. Some may recall the automotive industry, housing industry, banking industry… do we need more evidence? No, we need solutions that address the cause not the symptoms. Suicide, drugs, alcohol, bullying, eating disorders ARE ALL SYMPTOMS!

My goal is to help people rebuild their connection with their family. To fulfill their Need for Connection by bonding with the people who they say are most important to them. Family (and friends) relationships are what people value more than anything else yet we typically take them for granted and we rarely cultivate them especially in our younger years. But I figured out a way to use technology and a little instant gratification to help people connect and over time, without even realizing it, they’ll be connecting deeper and more positively than ever before.

FamilyeJournal Logo

FamilyeJournal helps families communicate and connect but it requires a little work, like 5 minutes a few days a week. (This image is a preview of the new logo.)

That is the goal I’m trying to achieve with my website www.familyejournal.com. It’s a huge task but one I think the world needs and will greatly benefit from. There is a place for Facebook and Twitter but a need for FamilyeJournal.

Your Phone Checking Habit Can Help Bring Your Family Closer Together

The habit has become that whether you’re on the commuter train, having a coffee, at the doctors office, before opening the restaurant menu or even before you begin eating during your lunch break, the first order of business is to check your phone for Facebook, Twitter and Text Messages.

Mom on phone ignoring daughter

Once again a mother prioritizes her phone over her daughter.

What has happened to us that we are so completely addicted to our phones and any kind of status update? Are we truly engaged with people are simply addicted to “checking”? And once we start, no matter our age, background or occupation, we all seem to be doing it.

Even just sitting in Wegmans, right now, and looking straight ahead I’m seeing a mother on her phone completely ignoring her daughter. And this is by no means an isolated incident. What kind of message are we sending to our kids? What are we teaching them? What kind of behavior are we leading them to?

Now, what if there was a way to easily take advantage of the mobile technology and truly engage people or more importantly, our family? What if, in the time it takes to board a plane and turn off your device, you could connect with your family in a deep and meaningful way?

FamilyeJournal  helps bring families closer together.There is a way and it’s called FamilyeJournal.com. In about 5 minutes you can answer four questions and read the answers your family members have given. Learn about what’s on their mind. Listen to their thoughts and concerns. Hear them and let them know you care.

We can’t deny the power of technology but we can find away to really make it work for us. By sharing just a little bit of how you really feel you’ll be building a deeper rapport and connection. Relationships are often considered the absolutely most important part of our lives but we have trouble cultivating them in our face-paced world. With FamilyeJournal.com, it’s easy and worthwhile for everyone who can read… and type.