Why Our Education System Is Failing And The Simple Solution

Teachers/administrators, parents and students are what make education possible. The connection between teachers and students is obvious because that is the purpose of education. Schools recognize the importance of parental engagement but struggle to achieve it. The system certainly makes an effort with Parent-Teacher Associations (PTAs), parent-teacher conferences and a myriad of tools, such as websites, to communicate with parents about the happenings at school and with their children. The Triangle of Communication in Education fails because there are virtually no programs in place to support and nurture the parent-student relationship.

Triangle of Communication in EducationOur society is passionate about education. We dedicate extensive resources to making it better yet we’re still struggling to keep pace in the world. We try different philosophies and adjust curriculum. We build more modern classrooms and bring in computers, tablets and the internet. We try longer school days and school years and eliminate recess, art, music and physical education in order to give greater focus on reading, writing and arithmetic. We’ve shown that fewer students in a classroom helps but I’m not sure if we truly understand why.

Education involves people interacting and that means relationships.Until we focus on each type of relationship, significant improvements are unlikely. The most obvious relationship is between teachers and administrators and students. This relationship requires little explanation because the fundamental purpose of education is to share knowledge between teacher and student. This occurs all day long.

Teachers and administrators are tasked with improving students’ grades, retention, test scores and graduation rates not to mention managing behaviors. Beyond curriculum and technique, they recognize that the more parents are involved the better the students perform and behave. Why?

Is it because the parent knows what is happening at school? In part, because the better informed the parent is the better they can help guide their child. However, could it also be that when a parent is more involved with their child’s school then they are also more involved with their child’s life? Albeit indirectly, the child may feel like they are important and supported by their parent because the parent is taking an interest in what the child is doing. The child feels important to their parent. (Incidentally, this is also why smaller classrooms make a positive difference. A teacher isn’t changing their technique for fewer students. Smaller classrooms allow a teacher to have a more personal connection with each student.)

Assuming for a moment the above parental involvement premise is true thenby improving the parent-child relationship we can more directly and significantly improve the child’s development and success. According to the Triangle of Communication in Education, we have a well established teacher-student relationship. We also have a fairly robust teacher-parent relationship. In order to have the greatest improvements in education we need to support and encourage the parent-child relationship. (It seems so obvious but it’s not happening and we know this because of the myriad of symptoms we experience everyday – in children and adults.)

Abraham Maslow Hierarchy of Needs, 1943When parents and their children feel supported and connected their behaviors improve.This phenomenon is documented in the research and affects more than just scholastics. People, at every age, need to feel connected. It is a basic human need as theorized by Abraham Maslow in 1943 when he presented his Hierarchy of Needs (image).

When a person does not feel connected they attempt to fill that void by resorting to alternative behaviors. Our society is feeling those effects and they present as drug and alcohol abuse, depression and suicide, bullying, eating disorders including obesity, gun violence and more. When someone feels a sense of connection their behaviors improve and so do their scholastics.

We always hear about the importance of family and of communication. We instinctively know why but I’m here to state it as plain as day. People need to feel genuinely connected and until each person’s fundamental need is addressed little will change… for the better.

We have a real opportunity to significantly improve our education system and it won’t occur in the classroom, it needs to happen in our homes.Just like we’re encouraging our students to incorporate fitness and healthy nutrition choices throughout their day, we can do the same to encourage a positive family communication and connection. Overall wellness is more than just physical and when we feel connected and a sense of belonging to others it feeds our mental and emotional health.

Incidentally, if you’re looking for a fun and easy way to improve communication and connection we encourage you to give FamilyeJournal a try. With our database of questions, you’ll create guided mini-journals that are shared privately with only your family members in just 5 minutes.

Kevin

Note: This is an original post from FamilyeJournal’s Blog.

What Is eJournaling?

eJournaling is a Cloud-based Q&A activity where users answer questions from a proprietary database and share those answers with members of their inner circle (e.g. family, friends, co-workers, etc.) eJournals are organized in sets of four questions with additional space to write about anything that’s on your mind.

Answering a few simple questions about everyday happenings helps encourage dialogue and communication on a slightly deeper level. It is through this casual and guided dialogue that helps people know each other on a whole new level. The better we know someone the more connected we feel to them and them to us.

eJournaling is about building connection with a few others through the basic sharing of personal, but not private, information. Your favorite vacation, tv show or ice cream flavor is personal to you and only your opinion matters. Yet, it’s a relatively benign piece of information that, when shared, does not put you at risk of harm, embarrassment or judgement.

Private information (which eJournaling does not try to find out) such as the first time you tried smoking, your thoughts or opinions of another person or your deepest fears and insecurities require a much greater level of vulnerability and depending on the receiver could result in judgement, conflict or embarrassment. eJournaling is not trying to access your private thoughts.

When we begin to share personal information we welcome others to learn about who we are without risk of divulging anything potentially controversial or being exceptionally vulnerable. It’s the combination and accumulation of sharing little details about who we are that allow us to develop a rapport, a common reference of knowledge and a more complete understanding of the people closest to us. The more we understand and know someone the more connected we feel.

This is the essence of eJournaling – simple, easy questions that encourage us to regularly share a little with our family, friends and/or colleagues to bring us one step closer together. Enjoy!

Kevin

Note: This post is an original from FamilyeJournal.com’s blog.

Your Phone Checking Habit Can Help Bring Your Family Closer Together

The habit has become that whether you’re on the commuter train, having a coffee, at the doctors office, before opening the restaurant menu or even before you begin eating during your lunch break, the first order of business is to check your phone for Facebook, Twitter and Text Messages.

Mom on phone ignoring daughter

Once again a mother prioritizes her phone over her daughter.

What has happened to us that we are so completely addicted to our phones and any kind of status update? Are we truly engaged with people are simply addicted to “checking”? And once we start, no matter our age, background or occupation, we all seem to be doing it.

Even just sitting in Wegmans, right now, and looking straight ahead I’m seeing a mother on her phone completely ignoring her daughter. And this is by no means an isolated incident. What kind of message are we sending to our kids? What are we teaching them? What kind of behavior are we leading them to?

Now, what if there was a way to easily take advantage of the mobile technology and truly engage people or more importantly, our family? What if, in the time it takes to board a plane and turn off your device, you could connect with your family in a deep and meaningful way?

FamilyeJournal  helps bring families closer together.There is a way and it’s called FamilyeJournal.com. In about 5 minutes you can answer four questions and read the answers your family members have given. Learn about what’s on their mind. Listen to their thoughts and concerns. Hear them and let them know you care.

We can’t deny the power of technology but we can find away to really make it work for us. By sharing just a little bit of how you really feel you’ll be building a deeper rapport and connection. Relationships are often considered the absolutely most important part of our lives but we have trouble cultivating them in our face-paced world. With FamilyeJournal.com, it’s easy and worthwhile for everyone who can read… and type.